When we choose to join a spiritual community, we also make the choice to allow our personal journey to now go at the rate of that group. We do this so we can have a sense of belonging. Often at the expense of our own journey.
Groups must use shared rules and behaviors in order to have a sense of community. Being an individual means following your own path. Individuality done right it will often go against the dogma of the community.
Personal growth is exactly that: personal. To forego the enforced dogma of the group and embrace your inner journey is the Bodhisatva way. The way of the warrior.
Namaste.